Cyber sex chatrooms
And to be honest, I don’t think he knew what he was saying either.
He wasn’t particularly imaginative, or even literate.
(For the next few years, I thought “cum” was a synonym for “penis,” in large part due to Frank Zappy’s sloppy syntax.) I don’t remember being sexually aroused by my relationship with Frank Zappy, so much as I was just fascinated by anything vaguely related to sex at the time.
I probably got a similar thrill from watching my Sims family make woo-hoo.
This veil of anonymity let an entire generation of young women like myself experience their sexual initiations in AIM chatrooms.
For the first few weeks or so, my relationship with Frank Zappy skirted the lines of PG-13 respectability.
“This was a way to have a brand new sexual experience without having to take the same risks you took in a real meeting.” Unlike phone sex or late nights in bars, meeting someone in an AOL chatroom for a little at-work afternoon delight was essentially free, or at least the price of a dial-up Internet connection.
And for those who were too nervous to put themselves out there in real life, cybersex was a conduit for experiencing the pulse-racing high of anonymous sex.
Of course, I had no idea what I was saying; much of what I said was based on what I had seen on General Hospital and read in Jackie Collins paperbacks.
Most teens of the early AOL chatroom era, or the mid-to-late-1990s, experimented with cybersex or had their sexual initiations online, in chatrooms with names like “Bored housewives over 30” or “Naughty wellhung surfer boys 18 .” In 1996, AOL had 5 million subscribers; by 2002, it had 25 million and was the biggest dial-up service in the country.
Chat had never been more expedient or accessible, so it was only a matter of time before people started using it for sex.
“Emotional arousal and fantasy are incredibly powerful instruments,” Weiss said.
“The idea that you could play out your kinky fantasies and ideas with these strangers across the country who you’d never met, and have them be excited and responsive and engaged, was incredibly exciting to people.” When I surveyed my friends to see if they had had cybersex in AOL chatrooms, nearly all of them remembered having similar experiences, usually with friends.
I was Dana, a name I had lifted from a character on my favorite Purple Moon CD-ROM.