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We've had to ask if it's worth listening to other people’s opinions to potentially give up the best relationship we have both ever had.
It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships.
I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.
Also note that this was not because I had some notion that we would end up together long-term, but rather because I was embarrassed to be seen in public with him because of our age difference. At the time, I thought that people would judge us and stare, or even worse, someone might mistake him for my son.
In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about 12.5 years — an age gap that is taboo in our culture.
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.
This is not the choice someone else may have made, they may have gone down a different path, or chosen a different type of partner.At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.