Dating a guy 12 years older than me
I believe that this is someone else’s issue and not my own.
I am aware that people often judge what they do not understand.
When the roles are reversed and an older man dates a younger woman, the men are often congratulated and revered.
What is the equivalent of "cougar" for a man who has a younger partner?
Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
I went through all of the issues in my head thinking, Sometimes, I'd actually pick fights out of insecurity, just so I could utter the lines, “Maybe you'd be happier with someone who for certain has all of her eggs,” or, “Perhaps, you want someone who isn’t on a timeline of starting a family.” I am not a “cougar," the horrible label given to women who date younger men.
People in our lives also expressed the fear that if we were to stay together, we may never have a “normal” life.
It’s not new money (or young money) where he wants to go out and blow it on stupid things; it’s the earned life he’s been creating for years. There’s very little fighting or problems that pop up. I like that security, and the thought that with him, money isn’t an issue.” “My advice to everyone is date somebody who is older than you. I love dating older because then there is less drama and B. on a date, because I actually broke every dating rule out there, and invited him over to my house to watch a football game and share dinner.There are days when the weight of it all leaves me immobilized, sad, and unable to focus on anything.
So, how do I cope when the judgments become overwhelming?
I have learned a few things to help me get by, and to remind me that our love is worth fighting for:1.