Dating a latin man
“If you catch a woman’s eye, don’t dwell in it or keep catching her eye. ’ Men and Flirting A lack of directness is certainly not an issue for most Latin men, according to Beth Stevenson, an American veteran of the Argentine dating game after living and working in Buenos Aires for a year and a half. “They do not leave you alone, which is annoying but they’re very charming.” Being naturally extroverted and flirtatious also means Latin men can get away with behavior that would not wash in the U. “What we expect from guys in Latin America is completely different,” Beth said.
“If in a bar here a guy whispers ‘you’re the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen,’ you’re like ‘oh, thanks’.
So, to guide you through this minefield, Nearshore Americas caught up with some American and British expats, currently living in Latin America, to seek their advice on the ways of cross-cultural Latin love.
For the business-tripper looking for love, the first challenge is knowing where to look.
Love, whether a life-long partnership or a night-long fling, is never easy.
Throw in a language barrier and culture gap and you’re lost in a strange new game with strange new rules.
But if a guy did that in the States I’d be like ‘you’re pathetic’.” Once contact has been made with the object of your desires, you are running a whole new cultural gauntlet – one in which body language can play a bigger role that what you actually say.
The key differences for travelers from more ‘distant’ cultures are in the Latin approach to eye contact and physical contact – lots of both.
“Foreign women aren’t nice girls, they are loud and demanding.” While an invitation to dance offers the perfect ‘in’ with the average Latino, for those with a fear of rhythm there are still alternatives to pounding cheek-to-cheek musical passion/sweaty palm grasping and awkward stumbling.
For James, the answer for gentlemen is clear – get your wallet out. “The whole roots of man-pays-all dates at the door and enjoy the free ride.
“At first I resisted but it’s such a pain in the ass, and really so hard to get a man not to pay for you that it’s almost embarrassing,” she said.
While the relative calm of a laid-back cocktail bar might appeal, the best approach is to head towards the sound of a pounding salsa beat and shuffling couple feet, according to James Flood, a 30-year-old British who has had numerous romantic (or so he claims) dalliances with local Latinas in his travels in Guatemala, Nicaragua, Panama, Cuba and Colombia.
Salsa Dance “Get a couple of basic salsa lessons – seriously,” he advised.
An aversion to either may well be interpreted as a lack of interest – or worse.