Dealing with rejection in dating
I merely told him in a straight-forward manner that I had assumed he was not interested in me since I hadn’t heard from him at all.
He acknowledged that he could understand my making that assumption.
Earlier this month I happened to match with three very different guys on Bumble.
I wasn’t hedging my bets as much as trying to cooperate with the capricious online dating gods.
The following Saturday night around 7 pm I finally heard from him.
He did not answer me and I have never heard another word from him. I very rarely cancel dates, but I had to reschedule. I get blown off and canceled on and ignored and asked out at the last minute possible all.
He also shared that he was wiped out from the move and relieved to postpone meeting me until he wasn’t so tired.
We casually batted around seeing each other when his schedule settled down.
Non Date #3: He was the least attractive (to me — he is not an unattractive guy), but had a lot of positive things going for him. I apologized, gave him plenty of notice about my needing to reschedule, and threw out alternative dates. He then cancelled on me, asking to re-schedule again. Here’s the thing: this is reflective of how online dating frequently seems to go for me (and so many others)!
I happily complied and we locked into a new day, this Friday. He cancelled totally, sharing that he is now in an exclusive relationship with someone else. When I tell someone that I have a date planned in theory, he will often tell me that I’m being negative. I sent a gracious response congratulating him on finding someone special. That’s how a woman goes from having three dates to having no dates over the course of two weeks.