How to stop dating a guy
“I am flawed.” “If I spill my guts to someone else, they will run.” “I can’t be vulnerable.” “I’m not enough.” “I’m going to die alone.” “If I commit I will be trapped.” And on and on. When you hear yourself repeating any of these negative statements, say, “stop” and replace the thought with a positive affirmation.I like to use “I am whole, I am love,” but use a positive statement about your worth that resonates with you.Here is how I stopped the painful experience of getting my self-worth tied up in my dating experiences.Rather than looking for your other half and staying off balance, you must believe that you are worthy and whole right now.While it can be fun to go on a bunch of dates with different people, it can also make you feel like you’re floating alone on your own little island of solitude.For happily married people, the trials of meeting a mate are ancient history that they’ve completely glossed over.My best friend called it “going for another round.” It took me years to realize that I was addicted to the experience of dating itself.
How exactly do you even meet anyone if you aren’t looking?
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” ~Unknown I’m all too aware that dating can feel like a grinding, painful roller coaster to nowhere.
If you’ve hit your head against the wall as many times as I have, you know how frustrating, depressing, and downright disheartening it can be.
For whatever reason, you were not right for someone else. It is easy to get hung up on the “whys” behind their decision, but dwelling on them doesn’t change the reality.
If you aren’t right for someone else, they aren’t right for you.
I could either continue to view my dating experiences as abysmal failures that reflected poorly upon my self-worth and keep letting my self-esteem circle the drain.